I specialize in the following therapies for individuals, couples, and families.
I believe that conventional therapy does not work for couples. Too often, the therapist assumes the role of a referee, and may actually encourage divorce due to their own discomfort or limited ability. You do not need a referee; you need skills and a plan for improving your relationship. My couples counseling sessions, based on Imago Relationship Therapy, provide you with the skills to clearly communicate with your partner, validate each other’s feelings and experiences, to empathize, heal, and thrive.
For relationships in serious crisis, please read more about my intensive Relationship Rescuecounseling services.
Trauma survivors are those who have suffered an emotional or physical wound or shock caused by violence, accident, or circumstance. These events are overwhelming to the central nervous system and often have long-lasting effects. When our central nervous system is overwhelmed, the body holds onto the traumatic memory, while the brain has adapted a series of responses that shut down advanced thinking, sending post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) sufferers into a painful “fight, flight, or freeze” mode. Retelling of traumatic events in therapy can actually cause clients to be re-traumatized. Embracing the tenets of Somatic Experiencing® as a practitioner in training, I assist clients in embracing their innate ability to overcome trauma. Somatic Experiencing is based on the work of Dr. Peter Levine, author of Waking the Tiger. Learn more about Somatic Experiencing.
Surviving loss and trauma is a painful process that leaves you forever changed. Grief is a normal and very personal process in response to loss, and is often a healthy sign that we have loved well. Although grief is usually most effectively processed in the company of caring friends or family members, the assistance of a qualified, caring professional can be helpful for those whose grief seems overwhelming or burdensome to others. I can assist you with processing your loss, accepting a new reality without the presence of your loved one, and discovering the transformation that occurs as a result of loss.
Mainstream mental health systems are often quick to diagnose individuals with addictions. It is my belief that we are all wounded and most of us have learned, at some level, to minimize our pain, mask it, or deny it. Misplaced or untreated emotional pain fuels depression, anxiety, and a feeling of not being safe in the world. If we can find something, anything, that helps us bypass these emotions and makes us feel better, it makes sense that many of us are drawn to that escape. However, this approach does not work in the long term. This is what is commonly referred to as “addiction.” I help clients discern what is true for them.